Which way?
Why is it that religion is still a major contributing factor when it comes down to mariage. I was recently in a conversation with some people and the point was that the parrents will not accept a Christian girl marrying a Tamil boy or a Hindu girl marryng a Tamil boy.
I fully understand the reason behind cross beliefs and the way forward, meaning which direction does the wind blow. Which upbringing will the kids follow? My answer to this is simply that we are Generation X. Race, colour, religion has been abolished in Gen X just like appartheid, this is a distant memory.
Somebody I know a white male married a ‘bread’ chick. I have seen these people at a family functions, and I must say that this dude was confused, lost, mesmerised by what was happening around him. Was he enjoying himself? Hell yes. Was he out of place? Hell no. Were the girl’s parrents feeling out of place? Hell yes. So I asked myself why. Why does the old folk always bring this up? Is the religion factor more important than the couples happiness and compatibility?I think that the problem is more about ‘What the family will say about this’. Will this become the latest gossip in the family? “You saw that girl how she was carring on with the white fella, no shame they got’ I wonder if those gossipers saw the couples happiness.
I guess that this will always be an oppened ended discussion. We will never have a solution to this problem.
Over the past few years our cultural differences have combined and our daily interaction with cross cultures has increased all over the world. It is almost impossible NOT to fall in love with somebody out of your cultural habitat.
My 2c worth is that religion is in your heart, it is part of your upbringing just like your parents they are part of your upbringing. You cannot remove this, but rather move forward with it. And for thos that are faced with this situation my advice will be to sit back and ask yourself, What do you want?Are you going to find that happiness, stability and most importantly Do you find a FRIEND in your partner? Now ask yourself, should I wear a mangalsutra or a thali?
3 comments:
I believe that no matter what religion you are, or what your background is, If you love somebody, Nothing and Nobody should stand in your way. Are your parents marrying the person or are you?? Dont let religion come in the way of love.
If you are content with your religion and have seen the light why do you have to change your beliefs for anyone.Why cant a woman maintain her religion and a man his.Why is the woman always asked to make compromises?Ariana,when you marry you are marrying into a family whose lifestyle and upbringing is different to yours,fine change if you want to,but families are important too and culture your roots,talking is easy but practising is not.
Hey All,
Speaking as someone that has both "talked and practiced it"...finding someone that you can whole heartedly love and having the confidence everyday that he/she truly loves you as well, strongly out ways the factor of his/her religion. We should all be so lucky to find someone genuine then to find someone of the same religion that is with us simply because we please our so called religious obligations of marrying within our religion. At the end of it all, it's up to the individuals in the relationship, either to follow your heart and live your happy ever after or please others and follow what their version of your happy ever should be --- as for me I am blissfully happy with me "bread" boy and have lost none of my "porridge" roots --- I was never asked to compromise and we have found a peaceful middle ground that we are both content with. When you love someone there is always a little compromise and sacrifice in your relationship - even if you are a same religion couple.
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